Bad Little Wifey

This is inspired by fellow blogger, Slut, from A Whore in the Temple of Reason.

She, via her blog, introduced me to a site called Christian Domestic Discipline or CDD.

Oh.
My.
God.

The basic premise of the site is that men are the bosses, women are subservient to them, and if they get outta line, the man reserves the right to resort to corporeal punishment via spanking using hands, rods or whatever else comes in handy. Spare the rod, spoil the missus?

What is there to say about this other than "denial...is an ugly thing." If we were to get inside the heads of some of these people, I think we'd find what's in a lot of people's heads when it comes to BDSM: a desire to dominate and the desire to be dominated. Only these people are using the bible and God to sanction and justify the behavior. Why do they need to do that? Why can't they just enjoy the prospect of exploring each other's sexual shadow-side?

I think it has to do with the deep-seated belief that sexual feelings and acts are inherently evil in the sight of God, so the ideal solution to that is to take God's "word" and twist it to accommodate their desire for BDSM. The hysterical part is they don't use any actual bible quotes to sanction the practice. They gather quotes about a man being the "protector" and a wife being "subservient", but, and I'm gonna stretch a bit here, nowhere in the bible does it say "If she' acts naughty, lift her little skirt and swat her until she's red and wet!"

But there's another element to it that is disturbing. From the website it reads:

"What makes this model unique in the current times and culture is that the
husband, in order to love his wife, has decided to use what might be called
‘God mirroring’ or ‘practical godliness’ - in other words, a following of
God's methods of how He uses authority, and how God expects and tells mere
humans to carry out their delegated authority. This leads to
physical discipline to lovingly keep the wife accountable to her master’s God given authority. After these marriage relationships have been living
with the husband as head and the wife in subjection to his authority, the wife
always desires greatly to have this type of relationship with her husband,
feeling that the husband is showing practical love when he corrects
her with physical and painful discipline for sinful habits or other various
things. She wants to be in subjection and so obeying means allowing
discipline in any way her master/husband determines is necessary."

What's disturbing is that for many, BDSM is a sort of lifestyle choice at the most, a game at the very least. These Christians have formed a belief system around it that could easily get out of hand in the wrong... hands. I mean, what's the safety word for the wife in CDD Land?

"No, honey, stop! Stop! Uh...Moses!"

There is no safety word and there is no game. It is the real deal where no one cuddles after and no one feels like equals in the end. You are punished, humiliated and you are less-than.

Leave it to the Christians to fuck up the fun.

Paix